I know you’re discouraged right now. You can’t understand the plan God has for you. You don’t know why that door wasn’t the one for you to walk through. Worry is creeping into your heart, you worry you won’t be able to save enough, that the fertility meds won’t work, the IVF won’t be successful. You worry adoption will fall through. Worried that fostering will be too much for you to bare. You worry, worry, worry!
Don’t allow the enemy to use your discouragement against you. He wants you to feel defeated. To feel hopeless. To feel ashamed. ENOUGH! Don’t give up! God will always make away! When one door closes, He WILL open another. It may be a different door than you had planned, but trust in His plan. No matter how hard it seems, know that He has your back always! Stand in your faith. Stand on your promise! Stand on God’s Word. Don’t give up! Xoxo
“For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”
Matthew 7:8 CSB
What you put into your heart is so important, it dictates how you will feel, act, and treat others. It even dictates how your relationship with God will be. The Bible tells us to “guard our hearts” to be careful of what we put into them, protect them. Do you guard yours?
Infertility is a pool of mixed emotions. There are ups and downs. Your heart is constantly being poured into and out of. Fostering is a roller coaster that so strongly affects our emotions and our hearts. Life in general is filled with so many things that, if we arent careful can harden our hearts. We cannot let our hearts be filled with bitterness, anger, envy, jealousy, hate or any other negative emotion. We cannot allow our hearts to be tainted. Let the negative out and the positive in. FIll your hearts with things of God like: Hope, peace, faith, love, forgiveness; all of the fruits that the spirit can give us. God gave them to us to make our hearts like His.
What’s in you heart today? If you find your heart filled with bitterness let it go. If you find your heart filled with anger let it go. If you find your heart filled with jealousy let it go. Let of all the negative things in your heart. How can I let it all go you ask? Pray. Study the Word. Saturate your heart and soul with Gods word. Fill your heart with the fruits of the spirit. The more you fill your heart with Jesus, the less you fill it with the hurts of this world. Jesus will take your dirty heart and make it clean! Search your heart today. Let Jesus take over and heal it. Guard your heart. Cleanse your heart of all the hurts and be free to experience all the good things God has for you.
“God, create a clean heart for me and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
Psalms 51:10 CSB
Xoxo Sincerely, Angela
There is a sad reality for foster parents…..
What is that reality you ask? Well, the reality is we constantly feel like we have to prove ourselves to others. We have to prove that we are parents. We have to prove that we can do this hard job that God calls you to do. We have to prove to the court system that reunification might not always be whats best. We feel like we constantly are seeking approval from ourselves, our families and our friends.
Another sad reality you face as a foster parent is the feeling of isolation. You feel that because there is a constant feeling of approval that you’re isolated from your friends. You feel isolated because your kids aren’t “your kids”. There is a reality of not getting invited to certain places because your kids are “bad kids” . A reality that the people you thought were your circle, your tribe are the ones that make you feel isolated the most. They are the ones that unintentionally make you feel you have something to prove or that you’re “too busy” dealing with foster kids to be invited to hang out or for play dates like any other “mom”.
Sweet foster momma friends, STOP it all!! You don’t need anyone’s approval. You are already living it by answering the call that your Heavenly Father chose you for. His approval is the only one that matters. He has set this path before you. He has made you a “mom” to the children that need it the most. Stop being sad or hurt because you feel your friends don’t approve of your calling and start realizing you already have the approval of the King of the most high! His approval is the only one you need. I know its hard friend, I am in the trenches with you. I am fighting this fight with you! Realize today that you have the approval of Jesus and that is all that matters in the end!
‘For am I now trying to persuade people, or God? Or am I striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. ‘Galatians 1:10 CSB
xoxo Sincerely, Angela