There is a sad reality for foster parents…..
What is that reality you ask? Well, the reality is we constantly feel like we have to prove ourselves to others. We have to prove that we are parents. We have to prove that we can do this hard job that God calls you to do. We have to prove to the court system that reunification might not always be whats best. We feel like we constantly are seeking approval from ourselves, our families and our friends.
Another sad reality you face as a foster parent is the feeling of isolation. You feel that because there is a constant feeling of approval that you’re isolated from your friends. You feel isolated because your kids aren’t “your kids”. There is a reality of not getting invited to certain places because your kids are “bad kids” . A reality that the people you thought were your circle, your tribe are the ones that make you feel isolated the most. They are the ones that unintentionally make you feel you have something to prove or that you’re “too busy” dealing with foster kids to be invited to hang out or for play dates like any other “mom”.
Sweet foster momma friends, STOP it all!! You don’t need anyone’s approval. You are already living it by answering the call that your Heavenly Father chose you for. His approval is the only one that matters. He has set this path before you. He has made you a “mom” to the children that need it the most. Stop being sad or hurt because you feel your friends don’t approve of your calling and start realizing you already have the approval of the King of the most high! His approval is the only one you need. I know its hard friend, I am in the trenches with you. I am fighting this fight with you! Realize today that you have the approval of Jesus and that is all that matters in the end!
‘For am I now trying to persuade people, or God? Or am I striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. ‘Galatians 1:10 CSB
xoxo Sincerely, Angela